Happiness, Pleasure And Joy

Three Beautiful Much Sought After Experiences

Happiness, pleasure and joy, three similar yet not the same much sought after experiences. How similar are they? What is the difference or is there really a difference? Most important is what is the source to provide these beautiful aspects in life? How do we know if we have it? Is there a limit on the amount available and can we afford it?

Step by Step, Enter A State Of Being

What Is Happiness, Pleasure and Joy?

Pleasure is an immediate satisfaction, It is a delight to take it, give it, seek it, request it or afford/buy it. Pleasure is gratification or satisfaction. Pleasure can be a "source" of joy.
Happiness is a pleasurable satisfaction. Happiness is a state of well being and contentment brought about by good fortune, prosperity, luck or chance, it can just occur.
Joy is an experience of great "pleasure" or delight. Joy is the state of being happy.
Happiness, pleasure and joy are connected, it is like a staircase, one step leading to another. Each experience or event occurring one after another, without the first two steps the landing cannot be reached. Until the top level is achieved at which point we can "enter" into a state of being.

Differences and Similarities

. Pleasure occurs and can bring happiness and joy. Happiness occurs and can bring pleasure and joy. Joy cannot occur without levels of pleasure and happiness already in existence, because joy is an expansion of experience and state of being from pleasure and happiness.
Pleasure can go from a very short lived level of satisfaction to an intense and lasting experience of "great" joy. Happiness can go from a short lived experience of contentment and satisfaction to the intense and lasting state of "being" happy, which in short, is what joy is.

What is The Source Of Pleasure?

Pleasure is on the physical and material manifestation level. Pleasure can be touched, and seen. Pleasure can be bought, traded and sold.

Pleasure can be derived from physical encounters with others. Pleasure can be experienced from material possessions such as homes, cars, boats and the myriad of other possessions accumulated. These are pleasurable experiences that tend to be short lived, providing immediate satisfaction, yet always leaving an empty space in the immediate future to be filled with another immediate satisfaction experience. Never fulfilling or reaching a level of joy. These pleasures can however, bring happiness, a more short lived state of being that can go from moment to moment just like the source of immediate, yet not long lasting satisfaction.
Pleasure can also be derived from experiences, giving a gift, receiving a gift tangible or otherwise. Pleasure can be experienced from observing something outside of ourselves, a movie, a walk in a garden, children and family. Pleasure can be experienced from employment and jobs. More pleasure is obtained by giving, receiving, observing and doing versus the pleasure of having, the more durable it becomes. Each event and experience bringing about resultant happiness and eventually developing into full blown joy.

What Is The Source Of Happiness?

Happiness is found in between the tangible physical level and the energy of spiritual emotion. Happiness is a feeling or emotion that is expressed and explained by physical tangible events.
Happiness is the emotional experience from physical pleasure choices, it is as fleeting or as long lasting as the pleasure itself. Short bursts of happiness, always waiting to be filled with the next burst can become exhaustive and create an appearance that happiness is elusive. Happiness on this level of pleasurable experience is why it has been said we have to "pursue" it, as if it is running away from us, always one step ahead.

Happiness resulting from pleasurable choice experiences obtained by giving, receiving, observing and doing is durable, long lasting. With an accumulation of these pleasures in life, the resultant happiness becomes a continuum, no longer pursued but now possessed. This level of happiness is the source of the State of Being Happy which is by definition...Joy!

What Is The Source Of Joy?

Joy is a pure energy of spiritual emotion. Joy is a state of being that is elevated above all physical and tangible events.
The source of joy is pleasure and happiness, choices made on both of those steps that brings the experience of joy into our lives. Lasting investments made for pleasure, not based on things that erode, get lost and can be taken from us. Investing in pleasurable events that bring lasting happiness, resulting in JOY!
Joy is the resultant affect of the physical pleasures and happiness we choose along our journey of life.

En-Joy-ing The Experience and the Journey

Joy is en the Journey! By choosing our pleasures carefully and cultivating the happiness, joy is achieved and can be a constant "state of being".
To learn more about what the steps, choices and options look like to experience more of the joy in the journey, read the suggested titles below.

Working Desire: 5 Tips for Maximizing Pleasure in Your Creativity

I love my job.
Every day and all day, I get to write and do other creative work.
I love writing and being creative so much I use working as a reward for getting other mundane tasks done.
But what happens when you love your artistic craft, but have a hard time actually doing the work?

The Key to Cultivating Desire

I haven’t always written full-time. So I know from experience that many obstacles, both internal and external, can stand in the way of our efforts to write or create art: limited time, limited energy, artistic insecurities, lack of motivation and the list goes on.

The key to tempering or overcoming these obstacles is to focus on the pleasure and rewards derived from your creative work, which in turn creates an on-going desire to work on a consistent basis.

Given our busy schedules and the less-than-creative nature of typical, everyday life, it’s easy to lose touch with the inherent pleasure of creativity and our desire to engage it on a regular basis.
So, how do we cultivate this desire to work creatively? How do we maximize the pleasure that is inherent to creativity?

Tips for Maximizing Pleasure

Here are some strategies I use for cultivating the desire to work and maximizing my pleasure in doing it:

1. Focus on what you love. It’s easy to focus on what you feel you “should” do creatively, instead of focusing on making possible what you love and what stokes your passion. For instance, you might feel you “should” be focusing on publishing your poetry, when what really excites you is spoken word performance. Or maybe you write poetry, but what you really enjoy is writing prose. What if you write, but actually love some entirely different creative work, such as painting or music? Take a deep look at where your creative pleasure truly lies, let your core creative desires guide you, and focus your artistic efforts in those directions.
2. Identify and address obstacles. In my experience, dealing with internal or external obstacles comprises the main challenge for doing creative work. For instance, most artists struggle with finding enough time and energy to work on our artistic craft.  And identifying and addressing emotional obstacles to being creative is fundamental to finding the courage and self-confidence required to create brilliant art. So, look closely at what’s keeping you from doing what you love to do creatively and determine the best methods for overcoming or tempering those obstacles.
3. Take creative risks. Finding ways to focus on our core creative desires and overcoming internal and external obstacles usually require that we take risks not simply in our creative endeavors but also within our daily lives. For instance, cutting back your hours at a day job in order to pursue your creative work can be such a frightening idea that many artists don’t even consider it as a possibility. Or making the effort to shift your family and household management in order to create more time for your creative work can seem so daunting as to be impossible.  Or putting down the writing pen and taking up a paintbrush can be truly scary. Regardless of your external or internal challenges, creativity requires risk in one’s work and in one’s life. However, if you’re not taking risks, then you won’t be able to gain the immense rewards and pleasure that come with creative success. So, open your mind to what’s creatively possible by determining the risks, large or small, that you can take in your creative work and career.
4. Be diligent. Some artists swear that rigorous discipline is necessary to working. And if you’re able to produce creatively by being disciplined, then that’s fantastic. However, if the notion of discipline, or regimented routine, seems too stifling or inorganic to your creativity, then try reframing your work as a matter of diligence, or as simply making an honest and simple effort to do your creative work on a regular basis. By shifting your point of view from discipline to simply making a consistent effort, you might be surprised by how much more easily you can produce creative work and thereby enhance your pleasure in the process.
5. Let it be good enough. Finding satisfaction and pleasure in your creative work requires that you let your best efforts be “good enough” until you’re able to stretch creatively and make more brilliant art. In other words, it’s important to practice and work towards strengthening one’s creative skills, but it’s equally important to sit back and bask in a job well done.  If you’re constantly dissatisfied by your creative work, then there’s a serious problem.  It’s pleasure in creative success that will take you back to your artistic craft over and over again, not dissatisfaction or the perfectionism that tends to underlie it. So, let your creative work be good enough and take in the pleasure that comes with making a solid creative effort.

Have Some Creative Fun

Creative work is fun and easy if you nurture the inherent pleasure of creativity.

And that type of pleasure is addictive. The more you feel pleasure in your creative work, then the more you’ll actually want to work. And in this case, you’re much more likely to practice on a regular basis, to stretch your creative wings, strengthen your creative skills, and grow as an artist. Once you’re actually enjoying your creative work, then it’ll become playful and fun, and it won’t seem like “work” at all.
So, focus on and maximize pleasure in your art and see if you begin to feel an intrinsic desire to work. But most of all, simply let yourself have some fun.

 

How To Pleasure A Woman In Bed-Give Her An Orgasm To Remember

If you are anything like i was then you are familiar with your partner saying
"ouch ow ok thats enough" every time you go down on her
Now she begs me to.

Are you aware that women can experience different
types of orgasms and can even have multiple
orgasms?


It's true! Unfortunately, many women can
go years without an orgasm from their partner, and
we all know how hard it is to satisfy a woman.
Here are some tips to increase the chances she'll
reach climax, including the secret to multiple
orgasms:

1. Don't start in the bedroom - Want to increase the
chances she'll orgasm? When was the last time you
surprised her with a little drawing, letter or
flowers and sent them to her at work? Believe it or
not, creative and romantic gestures DO turn women
on because love and lovemaking are interconnected
in a woman's brain. Do this and you can
bet-your-bottom-dollar you'll be doing more than
just eating dinner when she walks in the door! :)

2. Relax her - It's hard for women to orgasm if
they are stressed. Give her a quick back massage.
Rub her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away
the tension.

3. Ignore the vagina - Do you know that prolonged
foreplay actually increases the chances of her
coming? That's right. By kissing, caressing and
touching her LONGER, you'll build the sexual
tension and often the anticipation will be very
powerful.

4. Change your focus - If you focus all your attention
on the woman first, you'll make love to her much
more passionately. Think about it! If you've
finished first and decide to help her come, you
won't have the enthusiasm and passion that's needed
to keep her hot and turned on.

5. Tip to last longer - Of course the first step to
help her reach orgasm is by not coming. The best
way I've found to not come is: Penetrate as normal
and when you feel like you're about to come, simply
move your hips in a circular motion (like swaying a
hula hoop) and wait until the "little guys" subside
again. Now continue pleasuring. :D

6. Don't use lubricants - Women have a natural
lubricant that fills the vagina when they're turned
on. By using a product substitute, you're only
fooling yourself. Without products, you'll
instantly know if things are working; but with
them, you can never be sure.

7. Never too much clitoris - Did you know that once
you've stimulated the clitoris for some time, a
little thing called the clitoral hood will actually
come out and cover the clitoris to protect it from
further direct stimulation? (And no, I'm not making
this up!) The point is, once the clitoris is fully
stimulated, make sure you pleasure the G-spot next,
whether it be with your hand, tongue or penis.

8. Find and stimulate the G spot - The G-spot is a
zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and is
located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the
topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) There
are two basic ways you can pleasure the G. With
your fingers by doing a "come here" motion or with
a love position that helps hit the G-spot…

9. Use the best position - Not all love positions are
made equal. The best one for women is the reverse
missionary (woman on top). This is probably the
easiest position for a woman to climax because she
can control the friction to her clitoris and/or
G-spot.

10. Give her oral sex ­ The single best way to help a
woman reach orgasm, even multiple orgasms, is by
going down on her (cunnilingus). While at first I
didn't believe it, countless studies have been done
to prove this fact. Oral sex is easier and much
more satisfying for women than intercourse is.
Try the ABC's with your tongue, ask what she likes,
and mix it up with lots of different movements!

However be VERY careful! With over 6,000 nerve
endings in the clitoris, make sure you know everything
there is to know before poking your tongue around
there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even
worse, spoil the mood.

So there you have it ­ 10 tips you can start using
right away to give women the most earth-shattering
experience of their lives.

 

How to Pleasure Yourself: Self Pleasure Tips for Beginners

Tips and advice to make sex with your favorite person even better: a how-to masturbation guide.

It doesn't matter that masturbation is the safest and possibly most satisfying sex you can have, when it comes to a ménage a moi, lots of ladies (and men) are still in the closet.  For starters, let's applaud the fact that we're not living in the Victorian era, when women were restricted from riding bicycles and horses, and some from sewing and squatting, lest they get too excited. And we don't have to visit the doctor's offices anymore just so they can use a large vibratory apparatus to calm us from "hysteria." We can also eat graham crackers and corn flakes without the knowledge that both foods were once made to stop people from having sexy time with themselves. No longer do most of us believe that masturbating will cause us to go blind, lose a limb or even lose our lives. But lots of us still see masturbation as second-tier sex, or the sex you have when you can't get the sex you want, when the truth is, if you don't know your body, how can you expect anyone else to know your body?

In the 1994 book Sex in America, the question of who puts their own hands down their own pants, was, hands down, an act that less than 50% of women admitted to doing. Today, between 45 and 80% of women have at least tried masturbation, a larger number indeed, but still, not enough of us are decorating our own closets, even if we’re hiding in them. Bringing Sexy Back: 5 Ways To Increase Female Libido In Marriage
That means it's time to rub the 'shun' out of masturbation. It's time to shout from the rooftops that we masturbate and we love it! We love it, or should love it, because masturbation, and orgasms, can help relieve menstrual cramps and migraines, improve your skin tone, help you fall asleep faster, increase your desire for more orgasms, and can even make you multi-orgasmic. The 91-year-old actor Ernest Borgnine praised masturbating "a lot" as the key to staying young, and 78-year-old masturbation maven Betty Dodson is still as saucy and sexy as ever thanks, in part, to her Hitachi Magic Wand.  Even Britney Spears and Madonna haven't shied away from talking—and simulating—masturbation, so let's lower a hand (or a sex toy) and join the wank-off wagon!

Tips and advice to make sex with your favorite person even better: a how-to masturbation guide.

Women may get the "short end of the stick," when it comes to jilling off, but just because we don't have a dangling participle doesn't mean masturbation isn't the bomb. The clitoris is your best bud, and it's the only organ in the human body designed exclusively for pleasure. With somewhere between 6,000 and 8,000 nerve endings (if you're keeping score, that's almost double the amount of nerve endings in a penis), you can get a lot of feeling out of your clit. Just be gentle at first. Instead of going directly for the head, rub the shaft. Massage the hood. Turn it on slowly and gently. Insert a finger or two into your vagina if you like the feeling of something inside of you when you masturbate. That's where you'll find the G-spot.

The G-spot isn't actually a spot, it's more of a cluster, and after you're aroused you should insert one or two fingers into the vagina, and massage the top wall of the vagina with the tips of your fingers. The G-spot is actually the urethral sponge, so even though you're massaging the vagina, you're technically aiming for a place beyond what you can touch. Go in an inch or two to find the G-spot. Bend your fingers in a "come over here" motion. Move further back on that top wall and massage the cluster, or the spot known as the A-spot. That's where women should go if they're trying to ejaculate. Ejaculation is fun, it's a great release, and no it's not urine, but it's not necessary to ejaculate to have a mind-blowing orgasm so don't feel you have to do it. Next, turn your finger down and massage the perineal sponge, which is the erectile tissue between the vagina and the rectum. Some women like stimulation on the top wall better, others prefer the bottom, and some want no internal stimulation at all.  If you need clitoral stimulation to get where you need to go, you are not alone. Only 30% of women can orgasm without clitoral stimulation, so don't be shy about rubbing your own clit when you need to.

Tips and advice to make sex with your favorite person even better: a how-to masturbation guide.

So how you should rub? Try making circles around your clit. Draw the number eight around your vulva. Test out the alphabet. Use your hand like a paintbrush. Play with the shaft of your clit (check it out, just massage the clitoral hood to find it). Tap on your clit as you get closer to orgasm. Squeeze and release your PC (AKA kegel) muscles. Set the mood, listen to music, light candles, dress in something silky. Take your time. Try the shower head, or position yourself under the running water from the tub's faucet.

You can always use a sex toy. A vibrator has given loads of women their first orgasms, and vibration on your clitoris can feel spectacular. Sex toys that buzz will not make it more difficult for you to achieve great sex with a partner; in fact it can make it easier. A vibe is a great teacher tool, as are curved dildos and butt plugs. However, if you’re afraid a vibrator will desensitize your clitoris, simply stop using it and go back to your own Jackson Five.

Lube can help too. Lots of vaginas self-lubricate, but not all, and even the ones that do don't do it all the time. Women need more lube depending on the time of the month or if they're on anti-depressants or birth control. Plus, your clit and bum don’t self-lubricate, so if you're playing with them when you masturbate it's nice (or in the case of the ass, necessary) to add lube. It will make the task at hand go way smoother.